For many weeks, God put in my heart to write about relationships. I wasn’t remotely hesitant; my answer was a straight “no”. And I simply shut it down.

I didn’t want to write about that because it just didn’t make no sense to me.

I’m definitely not married, nor do I have a boyfriend. I don’t even have some flirtatious thing going on, so I was thinking: who am I to even speak on this topic?!

But then I remembered that God is the one who qualifies the unqualified.

Je me suis rendu compte alors que j’écrivais que l’une des raisons pour lesquelles je refusais d’aborder ce sujet était parce qu’il était très controversé et que nécessairement ma pensée et ma façon de voir les choses allaient à l’encontre de la majorité.

Il m’a fallu délaisser mon orgueil et accepter cette vérité de Dieu qui m’avait été révélée, que j’ai reçue, et sans m’enfler de vanité par rapport à ça, et surtout, de m’affirmer quant à cette révélation.

I firmly believe that there’s a person designed for each person destined to marriage and that we should only seek a relationship, try to find the one through God. Following God’s will for your life, His plan, His timing, His instructions!

And it’s through Genesis 24 that I received a real understanding on how to see His hand in our search.

First thing to look for is “quality”. Dans Genèse 24:3-4, lorsque Abraham demande à son serviteur de trouver une femme pour son fils, Isaac, il ne lui donne qu’une instruction, il n’a qu’une requête : qu’il ne prenne pas pour son fils une fille des Cananéens, mais plutôt une fille de sa patrie. Il y a une qualité, il y a une finesse qui s’ajoute à ta personne lorsque tu es un homme ou une femme qui craint Dieu.

By narrowing down your search to God-fearing men and women, you are already pulling yourself out of multiple unwanted situations, avoiding some unnecessary headaches, but mostly, you increase your chance of finding that person who is compatible to your destiny.

I am a woman of quality, so I must require a man of quality.

My second point is a different one but in a certain way is the continuation of this one. Because being Christian is not enough as a criterion, quality is also found in character.

À Genèse 24:14, le serviteur d’Abraham fait la prière suivante : « Que la jeune fille à laquelle je dirai: Penche ta cruche, je te prie, pour que je boive, et qui répondra: Bois, et je donnerai aussi à boire à tes chameaux, soit celle que tu as destinée à ton serviteur Isaac! Et par là je connaîtrai que tu uses de bonté envers mon seigneur. » Ici, il ne faisait pas que mettre Dieu à l’épreuve ou demander à être exaucer, il cherchait une qualité. C’est ainsi que Rebecca fera preuve de générosité, de force, de patience et plus encore…

Pourquoi y a-t-il tellement de relations dans le monde qui fonctionnent mieux que certaines de ceux en Christ? Parce que même les païens savent que c’est le caractère qui compte le plus. Ta femme peut rebababa autant qu’elle veut, si elle n’est pas soumise à ton autorité et ne te respecte pas, c’est dans un combat sans fin et inutile que tu t’engages. Monsieur peut bien être pasteur ou même prophète, mais si à la maison il te bat, à quoi ça sert? Matthieu 7 :20 le dit bien : C’est donc à leurs fruits que vous les reconnaîtrez.

Donc, quelles sont vos fondations? Et quels sont les fruits? Regardes-tu à son avoir ou à son être?

God is attentive to our needs and our wants.

Si tu as besoin de quelqu’un de calme pour te centrer, ou quelqu’un qui te pousse à te dépasser, ou que tu requières de la transparence… He gives what you need. He will meet your standards and even more. But you cannot base all your criteria on frivolous and on shallow things.

Not only, I believe that God is attentive to our needs and our wants in the way of what we need but also in how we need it. There is such a depth here and I could elaborate so much more about this one sentence. But in brief, however you need to receive something and what you’re making yourself available to is how you’re going to be presented with your answer. Dieu va se révéler à toi sous une forme, sous un langage que tu comprends. For example, in this verse (Genesis 24:14), the servant submitted to God how he needed to receive his confirmation.

In a case where in order to believe that the person presented to you is really from God, if you would need it to begin as friends, then God will set circumstances for you to get to know each other and grow a friendship. If, in the contrary, you’d need it to be more spiritual, where you must see an angel that will turn 3 times on himself, then get down on his knees and jump over your head then yell at you that this woman or man is the woman or man of your destiny. Best believe me that He’ll send down an angel to do all that and yell at you that this person is the one of your destiny. I believe that God is intentional and that He knows all His children. He is the God who answer our prayers before we’re done saying the prayer.

Ensuite, rien ni personne ne peut s’opposer au plan de Dieu. On peut remarquer dans les versets qui suivent des personnes et situations qui viennent faire obstacle à la réalisation de la mission du serviteur. Plus tu t’approches du but, il est normal que tu rencontres plus d’opposition. Cependant, la souveraineté de Dieu est ce qui triomphera.

Therefore, I’m asking you to stop selling yourself short, stop settling, stop panicking. Lorsque l’heure de Dieu dit aujourd’hui, ce sera aujourd’hui. Même si les circonstances semblent aller à l’encontre de Sa parole, Il est un Dieu fidèle. One of my friends once said: “God honours His word more than His name”. And it sticks with me.

It is a good thing to receive opposition because blessed are those who are persecuted for righteousness’ sake, but don’t let yourself be distracted and discouraged by it.

Peu importe le nombre d’attaques et de qui elle viennent. Une fois révélée, la Parole de Dieu dans ta vie s’accomplira.

Parole pour les femmes: There’s a difference between opposition and God telling you “No” or telling you that you’re not ready yet. Il serait temps d’abandonner vos “I can change him.” No, you can’t! D’abord, un homme qui veut changer, changera de lui-même. Ensuite, you are not the head of the house, nor you have been designed to be the leader. A man is. So, if this man of yours isn’t able to lead you, protect you and cover you as a God-fearing man supposed to, you already know how it should be then. Even Jesus doesn’t force us to come to Him, He simply invite us to… So who are you to try to force this man into becoming a Christian or to change in this or that way? Please, let God be God!

D’ailleurs, pour les femmes qui refusent la soumission, don’t you think it is a very sign he isn’t the one? That you body, spirit and soul are rejecting him. Because let me tell youuuuuu, a woman who feel she’s in a safe place will naturally bring out her soft, feminine side. In the contrary, if you are in a hostile environment or one that isn’t favorable to you being soft, you’ll tend to put on a shell because we all know that to be feminine is a very fragile state. That’s why a woman with the right man has no problem to submit to him, because she’s secure within herself and knows that he only wants what’s good for her.

Next, God wants you to be attracted to your significant other. Both Isaac and Rebekah were beautiful people and they pleased each other. The person God has for you will not necessarily look like Tayc or Ice Spice or whatever type you like, but you will be attracted to each other.

Finally, God wants you and your partner to love, respect and honour each other. A relationship that only exist when sin is involved is not of God. What is from God will not push you towards sin, push you to sin, or be led by sin. Something as simple as having impure thoughts when it comes to that person is a sign that you’re being led astray.

In Genesis 24:64-65, when Rebekah saw Isaac and knew that he was the man she was going to marry, she covered herself. By doing this she showed respect and honour towards Isaac.

It should also be mutual. Isaac also honoured Rebekah. Une relation venant de Dieu n’est pas à sens unique. De plus, il y a une différence entre le fait que Dieu ne t’aurait pas encore révélé à cette personne et cette personne te démontrant clairement son désintérêt. A godly relationship should display the fruit of the Spirit. It should bring you peace and comfort and love.

A relationship that is from God is a one that is going to glorify Him.

Je ne sais pas où vous en êtes dans votre cheminement, mais je prie que le Seigneur fasse réussir votre voyage et que lorsqu’Il vous exaucera vous ne puissiez que regarder avec admiration et amour cette personne et que vous soyez bouche bée devant l’’accomplissement des choses de Dieu. Je prie que vous lâchiez prise et laissiez Dieu écrire votre histoire d’amour.

Go be blessed!

HLL